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There's a whole website, Girl Crush Clique, which narrows down the definition to an attraction to a celebrity:
Is there a female celebrity that you just think is the most awesome? You have tons of pictures of her, you watch all their movies or buy all their cds. Well then she is your Girl Crush. Don't worry its nothing bad. You don't have to be gay to have a girl crush. You just have to like a girl(female) celebrity!Then there's getupgrrl's post about her friend-crush on her vet:
Do you know what I mean? "Friend-crush"? You meet a woman and you immediately want to be her friend but you don't know how to ask? I have an enormous friend-crush on my regular veterinarian (and believe me, nothing is more humiliating than having your husband say encouragingly - after every annual check-up - "Why don't you just call her and ask her out for coffee? I'm sure she'd love to be your friend!"). I don't know what it is about female veterinarians. They just all seem so funny and nice and best-friendy. Last night, I developed a friend-crush on the emergency veterinarian, too, an experience made even more painful by the fact that the emergency vet and my regular vet turned out to be friends with each other.I'm not sure why grrl is substituting 'friend' for 'girl'; maybe she'll tell us. My own understanding of the term in pretty much in line with hers. Once in a while there's a woman I come across who I'd like to know better (and doesn't that sound like a cheesy pickup line). It doesn't happen very often, maybe twice a year, and it's always someone who feels rather unapproachable for some reason -- a woman at a party who had some interesting things to say about a movie, or someone I only know from afar, another writer or (cough) even an actor. Not to really embarrass myself here or anything.I want in on this vet-friend-clique, people. How do I get in? Just tell me what I have to do.
So I'd be pleased to hear from you all about this phenomenon, what associations it has for you, where you came across it, how you use the term (if you do). It will help me sort out my thoughts, and I may end up writing an article as well.
June 28, 2004 08:39 AM
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I've never heard the term, but it seems to fit. I also like friend-crush better, because sometimes I get it with a guy that I definitely don't want to date, but I think he'd be a great friend.
Usually I just let things take their course, and if opportunities present themselves, I take them. But then, I'm really not very socially-daring, so that approach is likely not the most effective!
I'd be interested in any article you wrote on the subject...
Posted by: christina at June 28, 2004 08:23 AM
Like Christina, I get "friend-crushes" on both genders. And usually it comes to nearly nothing -- the few really deep important friendships I've had in my life have sprung up totally spontaneously, and all the rest can't seem to get beyond the friendly acquaintance stage (where we can spend half an hour having a pleasant chat, say during ballet class or in the church nursery, but never see each other out of that setting, unless we run into each other in the grocery store and say hi). I don't know why this is. I too would be interested in reading whatever you come up with.
Posted by: Rachel at June 28, 2004 12:22 PM
I can't really tell you where I heard it from, but it's appropriate. There's been girls that I wanted to be friends with, they were ubercool, but usually they were moving away within a month or two, and I just knew it wasn't going to happen. My current girlcrush is moving to Japan and I just met her, dammit.
Posted by: Jennifer at June 28, 2004 01:14 PM
ooh, drat, I am on the road but upon return must rec you a book or two, and am sticking this note up so you'll nag me if/when I forget. Love, R
(Oh, and I *LOVE* the Improved User Instructions on this page. These are worthy of study and emulation. I want a DAMN ____ BUTTON on my computer at work, please.)
Posted by: robyn at June 28, 2004 06:23 PM
well, this is looking promising. I like the idea that the crush thing is not gender specific, which is something to think about more. And I'm looking forward to Robyn's book recs. Which I will share.
Posted by: sara at June 28, 2004 08:56 PM